After Tragedy: Reflecting on Newtown and Henan

“I have heard all this before.
What miserable comforters you are!
Won’t you ever stop blowing hot air?
What makes you keep on talking?
I could say the same things if you were in my place.
I could spout off criticism and shake my head at you.
But if it were me, I would encourage you.
I would try to take away your grief.” (Job 16:2-5 | NLT)

I don’t have much to say that others have not said.  What I would like to do is to direct you to some articles and blogs that I hope will help you, as they helped me, make sense of the tragedies at Sandy Hook and Chengpeng and remember what I should direct my mind and heart toward after it has passed.

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” To this day, especially in times of “disaster,” I remember my mother’s words and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers – so many caring people in this world.” – Fred Rogers
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We’re all diffabled

I Am Sam is one of my favorite movies.  In high school I dated a girl who I’m convinced only dated me just so she could see my impersonation of Sean Penn’s Sam whenever she wanted.  It was really awkward and it didn’t last long.  But my love for the movie remains.

It’s about a man with a developmental disorder who tries to raise a daughter alone.  The problem arrives when she begins to grow old enough to surpass him on a developmental level.  It is a bit of a sentimental morality play, but it has too many good moments to dismiss merely because it tries to convince us to believe in supporting a situation that is so borderline unfeasible it’s reckless: Are we really ok with a single father who has the development of a 7-year-old raising a child all on his own?  But part of the question in the film is what it really means to be alone when you’re surrounded by people like you, and by people who care.  And the entire soundtrack is Beatles covers.

Here’s one of my favorite scenes:

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